I quit my job. Pitched as a consultative role in the financial industry, it was in reality a volume sales play. I am not good at volume sales. I’m not pushy, or “sales-y” – the only way I’ve ever sold anything has been through demonstrating quality work, specifically content. My work, my words, my worth. … More Hang up the barstool, pick up a barbell

My other must-have services are acupuncture, massage, and a good haircut. Perhaps not everybody’s top 3 self-care items, but they are mine. Additional healers My acupuncturist is the coolest. Super chill, definitely an empath and good at stabbing people just so to make them feel better. If you’ve ever had good acupuncture, hooray! If you’ve … More Team T, part 2

If you’re keeping up, so far we’ve got through the “why” as in why i am writing all of this, the “how” as in how in hell did I get here, so we’re now to “what” as in what gets me through the crazy,  what inspires me, and what it takes to find the new … More The village it takes

Back on the blog, y’all. Resuming sharing from my manuscript. Since I am in training for  a new job, I am not able to time my posts quite as consistently, unless I get ahead, and since I wasn’t ahead (as far as setting up the post), my timing is a little later than normal! So … More When it feels crippling

This is a word that cuts in both directions for me on the issue of depression. Firstly, one cannot defend oneself from the onslaught of depression. If you know that others in your family have dealt with this, maybe you’re aware it could happen. But, if it does, not like you can hide behind a … More The indefensible nature of the thing

Happy Halloween, y’all. Here’s my happy couple, in homage to the day. Back to the blog topic at hand: Unsurprisingly, I can’t punch depression back. Unlike some other illnesses that make people miserable, docs have yet to find the part of the human you can literally cut out to get rid of the problem. I … More Why can’t I just stab it?

In its unpredictability lies the most nefarious element of depression. I have no idea WHY this occurs. I literally returned from a kick-ass vacation to Hawaii’s Big Island and was loving my job when the latest round of depression slapped me upside the head. At first, of course, I didn’t know what was happening. I … More What I cannot understand

Ok, so I know the images attached to my blog posts rarely are connected to the content, but really, when you write about being sleepless, depressed and anxious, what the hell image should you use? Anyway, I just really enjoy these skully candle holders. This is how I find depression to be crippling: Depression, as … More Surprisingly crippling

Before I launch into this section on depression, I offer first a quote from Brené Brown. “High lonesome can be a beautiful and powerful place if we can own our pain and share it instead of inflicting pain on others. And if we can find a way to feel hurt rather than spread hurt, we can change. … More The cyclical persistent pest